Comments on: Aren’t We Smarter Than This?

By: “Stylish Mums on the Run” – Today Morning Show « Vintage Grrl

Tue, 02 Mar 2010 06:20:53 +0000

[...] is not a new debate. Melbourne Fashion Blogger, Super Kawaii Mama, delved into this subject last September from the point of view that it only matters if you make it [...]

By: Guest Lecture: Style and the Social Self : academichic

Guest Lecture: Style and the Social Self : academichic — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 14:25:06 +0000

[...] one she has cultivated during her years on the mainland. Super Kawaii Mama has written about the astonishing pressure to be a “yummy mummy” within certain social circles in Australia. My readers told me in no uncertain terms that the [...]

By: hammie

hammie — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:47:06 +0000

This subject is LOADED with meaning for me as you know it carries the extra dollop of victim chic in my world. You are more “worthy” if you look like shite.

As far as I can see it is a cycle. You feel bad, you dress sloppy, people don’t treat you that well and you feel even worse. Pull on a dress and nice shoes. Drag a brush through your slept in hair and make use of a toothbrush, mascara brush and lipstick and Behold, you look nice, people treat you nice, you feel better.

And any bitches who make snide remarks about “oh I don’t know where you find the time to dress up everyday?!” Well it actually takes less time to pull a dress over your head than it does to do trackpant, t-shirt, hoodie.

It doesn’t mean I am sipping on Bloody Marys all day while my children collect aluminium cans to trade for a carton of milk and some broken biscuits.

Lipstick makes you smile! xx

By: Super Kawaii Mama

Super Kawaii Mama — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 04:34:12 +0000

Alternative Fashion Blogger: Exactly. It is so very tiring and trying. I cannot understand how bothering to “dress up” can be more offensive to some people than the myriad of anti social behaviours we see on the streets. And yes, there are days that even I with my great big smile, have a very large helping of “F off”, underneath!

By: alternative fashion blogger

alternative fashion blogger — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 09:57:50 +0000

The replies to the article are typical knee jerk reaction. When writing populist articles like this, the media typically stage a black vs white argument…articles with ill defined greay areas never sell very well.

Many of the replies to the article on the Sunday Mail have predictably chosen the obvious tack, and gone against the “well dressed” and the “snobs”.

IMHO whether you are on the catwalk, shopping, going for a coffee or picking up the kids, if we want to express yourself though fashion aesthetics (creative or not) we have the distinct right to do so. We should go right ahead and tell the rest of the world to fuck off.

By: Sarah R

Sarah R — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 01:45:03 +0000

Wow to Harlow. Did a fat person sit on her as a child or something?

This “fat ass”, as you so pleasantly called me, adores SKM. One does not need to be thin to enjoy fashion, being elegant, and stylish. I just do it differently than thinner women. That’s it.

Weight has nothing to do with this situation. Even though SKM is much thinner than I, that doesn’t mean I can’t see her style, and wonder how it could apply to me. Her thin-ness and beauty doesn’t offend me…it INSPIRES me.

Sorry, this comes in a few days late, but I’m a very busy fat woman, working full time, caring for three lovely children, and attending college. You know, hoping I can join the species someday. *sigh*

By: Super Kawaii Mama » Blog Archive » She Speaks

Super Kawaii Mama » Blog Archive » She Speaks — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 03:29:01 +0000

[...] on from Sunday’s post “Aren’t We Smarter Than This?“, I was asked to appear on a Sydney Breakfast radio show Mix 106.5, to discuss the issue- [...]

By: Stacy

Stacy — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 16:33:13 +0000

Oh, and one more thing…

My 4 year old told me the other day, in a rather defeated tone, that her daycare friends tell her she wears dresses all the time. As if it’s a bad thing. I design and make her clothes, and she loves to wear dresses while most of her friends are in knit shorts and t-shirts. I always make sure her outfits are cute AND comfortable, but not slobby. I guess I am harming my child, eh?? Truly she is being warped and damaged by me, even though she has many friends and her teachers love my sweet little girl. How could I??

By: Stacy

Stacy — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 16:28:59 +0000

That article and comments were rather obnoxious, truly. Apparently if you dress well, you are dressing for OTHERS and not YOURSELF. Really?? I dress nicely and it is for me. Sometimes I feel a bit self conscious when I go to places with other moms and know I’ll probably be the best dressed. I’m not trying to make them feel bad, I just enjoy it. For me. And my kids are loved and well fed, too. I do enjoy to cook.

By: Sally

Sally — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 14:04:53 +0000

Oy. So much insecurity-based judgment. Self-care CAN be a priority, no matter what your circumstances, and presenting a clean, stylish, flattered, confident figure just shows that self-care is a personal priority. It’s a catty, asinine waste of energy to declare another woman’s choice to dress well as a reflection of snobbery. How disappointing to see that article cast as it was, a conflict-mongering, divisive piece that serves no purpose besides, as you say, stirring the pot. Bleh.